The "Rules"

A precious friend of mine recently revealed to me some general rules that guys try to adhere to/abide by...

And I will take the liberty of sharing a partial list with you here:

1. The girl must have a good time
2. If a mistake is made, its always the guy's fault

These "rules" have been a source of interest and intrigue to me and, even now, several days later I'm wondering, "How did these rules come about and what are the implications?"

I will dissect them for you here:

1. The girl must have a good time. This is fairly straightforward - I mean, can a good time really be had if the girl is not having a good time? (smile)
   
2. If a mistake is made; it is always the guy's fault. What an interesting thought. Walk with me here on this...to fully understand the implications of this rule, we must first have a clear understanding of the various possible mistakes that can be made and their possible implications...

Common Mistakes:
A true "mis-step" on the part of the man. This could be due to inexperience or just distraction. Either way, the partnership suffers. Application of "rules" kicks in: Man apologizes, and they move on.
A "mis-step" on the part of the woman. Again, this could be due to inexperience or distraction and the partnership suffers. But here's what's so interesting about the "rules". Though he may recognize and fully understand that it was she who made the mis-step, he graciously overlooks it and even goes so far as to apologize to her (!) for the mistake she just made ("Nope, sorry, it's my fault"). His main objective is her comfort (which again, points back to rule #1). What an intriguing and refreshing notion...
Lack of clear communication on the part of the man. This, I believe, is the single most common mistake in the partnership since, as we all know, women are excellent communicators.
(wink). So, what does this look like? Well, when executing a turn or dip or change of direction/pace on the dance floor (oh, did I mention that these are rules for dancing/2-stepping?), the man must, as the leader of the partnership, be in constant communication with the woman. Why is this? Well, as good as we are, women are not mind readers. So the man, being the gentlemanly partner that he is, gently directs and tenderly guides his partner using a mixture of different forms of communication (this may range from full out verbal communication "Ready to turn here?" to non-verbals such as hand placement, shift in weight, etc). Its really quite amazing. The result is a comfortable, enjoyable even dance. What happens if the man does not communicate his intentions clearly before executing any of the aforementioned moves? (or, ok, the woman fails to read his signals properly)? In a word: Confusion. Mistakes may be made, the pair might run off course, they step on each other a bit, feet may get hurt, etc.

So, then, what shall we make of this info?