All the Single Ladies

HI! How would you like some completely unsolicited counsel this morning??

Great!

This issue tends to come up in conversation from time-to-time so I thought I'd just s-p-e-l-l it out right here:

If he's not contacting you, then he's not interested in getting to know you.

Oh, I know you're raising your hand in protest: "What if he's shy/been hurt before/afraid of being rejected/busy?"

Sorry, not buying that.

Has he ever: applied for a job, played sports/ watched sports/ can spell "sports," etc?

Then he knows how to make time and effort to pursue something (or someone) he's genuinely interested in.

I don't care if he's perfectly charming when you run into each other around town, if he's completely awesome, if the two of you share the same birthday/grew up on the same street/had the same first grade teacher. You simply can't read into those things. If you've reached out to him over a period of time and he's not reciprocated in-kind, then you know all you need to know.

Again: If he's not contacting you; he's not interested in getting to know you.

And that's OK.

You just need to put him squarely in the "friend" bucket and do what it takes to protect your heart.

He's clearly not the one you're meant to be with. Or, he is and yet he's ignoring the Lord's prompting...and, in that case, those are issues you don't even want to get in the middle of.

Just remember: You are perfect for someone...the right someone.

Love! A